I was taking a Career Development class in Lagos some years back. I can remember I got paired with an attractive young girl, and I can even remember her name still.
After our first class, I asked them to talk to connect with other students. She choosed to talk with me. We got to know each other, she began creating topics around her singleness. She talk about this with me everyday after class.
Even if I changed the topic, she’d find a way of bringing me to talk about it. She'd Lean over and whisper some words everyday (intentionally).
Apparently my wedding ring was invisible.
I’d often groan with this pain-pleasure feeling as she approached. It was as though God had sent this gorgeous archangel to tempt my faith in marriage. And, to be fair, I did enjoy talking to her. She was very nice, interesting, and well, damn-attractive.
Getting married doesn’t turn you into an invincible Faith-Bot. Things sort of came to a head one day as we left class. As we stepped outside the doors, with other students filing out, she touched her hair and said:
“Hey, do you think you could give me a ride home?” She winked after she said it with a big smile.
I paused and felt my heart beating faster.
And painfully said, “I….I really shouldn’t. ……I have to be with my wife in like 15 minutes. And I can’t be late.” I noticed the disgust in her face. I was happy because I broke loose that day.
I am 100% faithful to my wife. But to say there weren’t moments like this, would be disingenuous.
In the heat of the moment of the young beautiful girl's invitation, I saw this door in my mind. Going through that door, I saw this rush, all of this lusty imagery that I could partake in. It would have surely been great for that moment. I knew, from having known guys who’d gone through that door, what happens next. And it isn’t pretty.
Once that door is open, there is no closing it, no going back. You will keep going. And it will lead to a dark place. A dark place where things that can’t be undone will undo everything good in your life.
In these situations, you need to use your head and think vividly about consequences, or those consequences will become your reality. Most importantly, you need to pay credence to the love and respect you have for your spouse.
It can all go away, faster than you’d imagine. You can break free if you truly want to break free.
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